Life at thirty-three
Today, I’m turning thirty-three. I’m spending the day with the love of my life, relaxing at homeย with a bottle of my favorite white wine and roast beef for dinner.ย I’ve also spent time reflecting on how far I’ve come this year.
Last week, I celebrated my two-year blogiversary and what I’ve accomplished as a blogger. It has been a year with a lot of solo travel, with new job opportunities, a new home and settling down. It hasn’t been a year with manyย big adventures, but rather a year of findingย myself and regaining balance in life.
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WHY AM I SO DARNED AFRAID OF GETTING OLDER?
Mark Twain said, โDo not complain about getting old, it is a privilege denied to many.โ
My dad and I started a joke some few years back where we’d say that I turned 21 every year. Yesterday, when my aunt asked me how old I was getting, I giggledย and said “21!”. Contrary to yours truly, this joke never gets old.
But why this phobia of getting older? Is it really such a bad thing?
I see lotsย of great things about getting older. In fact, I enjoy life much more at this stage; I enjoy aromatic Italian wine and gladly pay $$ for the finest. I enjoy sunsets and don’t mind wakingย up at 4.30 to catch the sunrise either. I enjoy the smallย things in life, like doing yoga in the morning or feeling the fresh coldย air on my chin in the winter. I haveย an inner balance that I’ve never felt before. All this has come because I’ve grown older. So, why do I worry about age when it’s so obviouslyย working to my benefit?
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I could take the easy way and blame society for settingย too high standards, but instead I’m thinking of whatย Mark Twain said about appreciating life. I’ve had some amazing life experiences, like boarding down an active volcano or swimming with whale sharks. I’ve found a man who loves me and that I love back. I’ve built a company and a blog from scratch, which gives me total freedom and time to see my family. And all this is a privilege because I have lived for as long as I have.
It puts life in perspective.
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I’M BLOGGING DIFFERENTLY
Since I became a blogger two years ago, a lot have changed, and me with it. For the most part, I’ve been busy focusing on what others expected from me and how I couldย build an audience.
But these past few months, I have changed my mindset and stopped writing solely for others. I’ve been so busy getting more followers and focusing on how a post could attract readers thatย it stopped being fun. I’ve always known that I would neverย sacrifice my integrity or sanity for anything, but blogging can be really challenging! There’s always MORE to gain; always MORE followers to get and MORE you could do. It’s like a black hole that swallows you up if you don’t hold back.
At the moment, I have 60,000 followers on social media, but all that can be gone tomorrow. Facebook can change their algorithm (which they do all the time), Instagram can shutย down, and all myย hard work will be lost. So although I’ll keep following my social media strategy, I don’t want it to control me. I’m blogging because it’s fun, and when it stops being fun and starts feeling like a chore, something has to change!
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Iย TOOK UP YOGA AND MEDITATION AGAIN
I started doing yoga many years ago, butย I haven’t been very active these past few years. Then a few months ago, I decided it was time to bring it back into my life and now I’m doing it almost every day. Aside from improved flexibility and muscle strengths, I also feel much more at ease and in mental balance.ย By working this into my morning routine, I have a great start of the day.
In short: it makes me happier.
I’ve also taken up meditation, which has worked wonders for myย patience and emotional life. It’s definitely something I want to keep doing.
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I’M FOLLOWING MY HEART
I recently took a big decision to quit a job that no longer made me happy. I’m not going to get into details, but this job was my financial safety net so I was taking a leap of faith by quitting. Now, I don’t doubt my decision for one second. I know I did the right thing by listening to my intuition and following my heart even though it was hard.
This process made me focus more on my freelance business and I’mย planningย to expand. I have a few projects in the pipeline and a strategy for how I want to move forward. It’s all very new and exciting, and I’m thrilled to see what the future brings.
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I’M SPENDING MORE TIME WITH FAMILY
I’ve also beenย spending more time with the ones I love the most. Since we moved back to Randers, I’m seeing my parents a lot more because they live so close by. I’m also super, super excited for Christmas, which I’ll be spending in North Jutland, and y’all know how much I love it up there!
Also, my cousin has movedย here from the US to study and be closer to family. I’m hoping to spend much more time with herย while she’s here.
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MY UPCOMING PLANS
Speaking of the future.. I did a lot of traveling during the summer, and after my trip to the Baltics and Russia, I felt like I needed a break. I don’t have any tickets booked yet, but I plan to visitย Thailand in January and then travel to Myanmar and Langkawi, Malaysia. I’ll let you know when my travel plans are final.ย Hopefully it won’t be long.
Lots of birthday hugs from Denmark
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Happy birthday, Miriam!! It sounds like you have the perfect day planned today. It also sounds like you’ve found a beautiful balance in your life – blogging can be so consuming that at times I’ve wondered if my main love is traveling or blogging, haha.
Thanks, Silvia! I can definitely relate to that, although lately I’ve been more laidback with the blogging part. I’d rather be consumed by traveling ๐
I literally just turned 33 too, last weekend. There’s still so much of the world that I want to see but a lot of pressures at this age.
Lots of love,
Angie
Congraulations, Angie! I can definitely relate to the pressures of the 30s, both from everyone else and yourself. But we’re still young, we have plenty of time <3
Happy Birthday! Love your post, thanks for sharing with us. I like your approach to blogging, if you’re enjoying blogging then your reader (i.e. me) will enjoy reading it, so well done!
I’m really glad to hear that, Michelle. It’s easy to get consumed by the strategic side of blogging, so it’s good to be reminded why I became a blogger in the first place. Thank you!
Happy Birthday, Miriam! Have a great year ahead and thanks for your good work – your blog is lots of fun indeed!
Aww, thanks Antonia! That means a lot to hear!
Happy birthday! Thanks for sharing your thoughts ๐ I’m 34 and sometimes wish that I started my travel blog earlier, but then I wouldn’t have had the experiences I’ve had along the way (or the savings from my last well paying job). Enjoy your time in Langkawi – I visited recently and loved it, especially as it’s more friendly and less touristy than Phuket or Bali.
Thanks, Shandos! I know what you mean, but personally if I’d started my blog sooner, I wouldn’t have had the life experience or knowledge that I do now. It sounds like it has worked out alright for you, too ๐
Langkawi is still on my maybe-list, but I’m really happy to hear that it’s not as touristy as Phuket. Did you write any posts about your visit? Would love to read them.
Happy birthday, Miriam! Your relaxed happiness shines through your post. ๐
Oh I can’t count how many times I heard from my grandparents at the age of 16 that ‘this is the best year of your life, you should enjoy, because everything will only be harder from this point’. And I just hoped it’s not true, because it was a teenage nightmare part of my life. ๐
And each year I realize that I’m happier than before. I care more about my dreams than about what others planned for me, I’ve changed things which I previusly thought cannot be changed and I’ve learned to find happiness in such small things. Glad my grandparents were wrong about this. ๐
Wish you all the best!
Bea
Thank you so much, Bea <3
I definitely agree that the teenage years wasn't the best time of my life. You're so confused and over-emotional at that age ๐ Getting older is not such a bad thing when I think about it. If only the wrinkles would stay away ๐